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With Ruth Cohn
The trauma of neglect:
identify it and treat it in therapy
"Because 'nothing' is not nothing"
NEW AND UNPUBLISHED!
What is the signature of neglect?
What signals should we look for?
How to recognize neglect trauma?
How can we work with neglect?
A word from Ruth Cohn
I am sharing my story to normalize experiences of neglect. There is a lot of confusion and shame surrounding neglect and I want to help you break free from it. These experiences are painful and unfortunate, but they are not your fault. Nothing is not nothing. This is my battle cry. And I want you to take it with you.
Neglect is the story of the “ nothing ».
I am sharing my story to normalize experiences of neglect. There is a lot of confusion and shame surrounding neglect and I want to help you break free from it. These experiences are painful and unfortunate, but they are not your fault. Nothing is not nothing. This is my battle cry. And I want you to take it with you.
Neglect is the story of the “ nothing ».
This is a world of missing experiences. When I started to study psychological trauma 40 years ago, it was hardly known. Then it started to become known. Gradually, people started to take an interest in neglect and its consequences. The term “neglect” has even become a household word. Almost everyone seems to know what it means. But what is the truth?
First of all, the people who have suffered from it are those who have always been left behind, slipping through the "mesh" of therapy.
One of the first things I noticed about people who have suffered neglect, the "survivors of neglect," is this shrug they give and say, "Nothing happened to me." And they don't realize that this "nothing" is precisely "everything" that has happened to them.. But because they don't know what they missed, they feel like they have neither a reason nor a right to feel bad. They feel bad and feel ashamed.
But there is something else besides the fact that they have remained invisible and unaided for so long. It is the feeling of exclusion, the lack of belonging, the emptiness, the alienation, this feeling of "I don't fit in anywhere."
These people are suffering.

Recognizing Neglect to Better Treat It in Therapy
This program is here to prevent this suffering, and everything that revolves around it. Nothing is not nothing : our work on neglect trauma is important. In a way, we are saving the world by working on trauma, neglect… and “neglect trauma.”
Thank you for being here. I am very happy to have the opportunity to address the French-speaking public thanks to this program that we filmed with Florence and Marc at my home in San Francisco in August 2024!
Together, let's shine a light on the invisible and give a voice to those who have never had one: because NOTHING matters!

The Trauma of Neglect: A Story About Nothing, About Absence, About What Did Not Happen
Le trauma is, by definition, an overwhelming experience: the stimulus of the traumatic event exceeds the ability of the brain and nervous system to process it in a normal way.
La negligence, in turn, represents a set of missing essential experiences, the absence of which can compromise, or even threaten, well-being and even life.
Both will have a profound impact on our nervous system and our body, hampering our ability to regulate and leaving an imprint on virtually every aspect of our functioning.
Neglect begins at the very beginning of life with a deep sense of being left to oneself, unattached, detached. Like an untethered astronaut floating alone in space.
Neglect is the story of what is missing, of what did not happen.
Attachment to our caregiver is vital, it is a matter of survival. We need attachment just as we need oxygen, food, warmth, shelter and protection. And the failure of that, the withdrawal, the absence, the loss of the other, the loss of that bond is experienced by the infant as a threat to his life. So the experience of not being attached is an experience of "mortal terror" »
At the heart of neglect trauma is what is called the "unsolvable dilemma". It is a concept that takes us back to very early childhood, when the child longs for closeness to another person, a loved one, but that other person is absent, unreliable, withdrawn, unpredictable, or not there. This constitutes a deadly "source of terror" for a newborn. And in this case, the source of terror and secure closeness is represented by the same person.
So this unresolved dilemma is that the child wants to be loved and to be close, but he is also terrified of needing this person; he will then repress his need and develop a kind of foolproof self-sufficiency.
Learn to listen and decode the “nothing” in your patients’ stories.
Towards a “neglect-informed” psychotherapy
Neglect is the story of nothing. This is why it is largely ignored in the field of trauma, and even in the world in general.
Today we have the notion of "trauma-informed" which has permeated modern culture and is now part of our daily vocabulary as therapists.
Ruth Cohn's mission is to do the same thing with neglect. She therefore develops the notion of "informed neglect" or informed by negligence (neglect-informed in English) to help us recognize that nothing does indeed matter.
And, as a therapist, Ruth Cohn is interested in understanding how deeply traumatic these missing experiences have been in the construction of one's sense of identity, relationships and perception of the world.
La “neglect-informed” psychotherapy offers a caring and holistic approach to identifying and treating the lasting effects of early neglect on patients' mental health and well-being.
Take charge and
accompany the nothing
Neglect is a form of trauma that can lead to feelings of emptiness, abandonment and mistrust. Survivors of neglect trauma don't come with a story. They often think they have nothing to say, that they don't have the words.
As therapists, how do we support them? We need to listen. We need to construct the story of neglect in a different way, from emotion, from sensation, from sensory perception, from what is communicated non-verbally on the ground.
And this is not magic or metaphysics, but rather a communication of the unsaid to which we must be very attentive so as not to miss it and to be able to hear it.
In this program in 9 sessions plus 1 bonus video, or 5 hours 30 of content, Ruth Cohn will share her knowledge, wisdom and expertise to identify neglect trauma and support the care of your patients. :
- A clear definition of negligence
- How to Recognize the Signs of a Lived Experience of Neglect
- How the brain and body function in situations of neglect
- The Impact of Neglect on Relationships and Sexuality
- What can the healing journey be?

Discover an excerpt
In this fifteen-minute excerpt, Ruth Cohn discusses key markers of neglect trauma, including the “three Ps”: passivity, procrastination and paralysis.
Their reactions after watching this clip:
“Wow. Thank youuuuu. What a revelation. I understand my behavior so much thanks to your videos and speakers. No more shame. I am and feel… recognized. Immense gratitude.” – Isabelle
“Thank you so much for this focus on the trauma of neglect… it really enlightens me.” – Sébastien
“I finally have some insight into what I’m experiencing in my relationship…” – Home
Who is this program for?
This program is primarily aimed at mental health professionals who want to deepen and broaden their expertise in the complex field of trauma and in particular neglect trauma, to accompany their patients on a path to healing:
- Psychologists, psychotherapists, psychopractitioners, psychiatric nurses.
- Doctors, psychiatrists, addiction specialists and other health professionals.
However, this program is also accessible to non-professionals, whether out of passion, curiosity or because it could concern you. But be careful, this program is not a therapy. We recommend that you contact a professional in case of difficulties.
Become “neglect-informed” and provide your patients with the recognition and security they have been missing.
Program: 9 sessions + a bonus video
- Session 1:“Because nothing is not nothing”: what do we mean by “neglect-informed” psychotherapy?
- Session 2: Introduction
- Session 3: Why “nothing” matters
- Session 4: A glimpse into History
- Session 5: Terminology: some important definitions
- Session 6: Recognizing Neglect: Key Markers
- Session 7: Introduction to “neglect-informed” psychotherapy
- Session 8: “Informed Neglect” Sex Therapy
- Session 9: Final thoughts and reminders
- Bonus: “Informed Neglect” Sex Therapy (another version)
This program includes
5 hours 30 of pre-recorded videos with Ruth Cohn.
PDF supports for the modules in French.
2 versions: one French dubbed version and original version in english (without subtitles)
A program accessible from the moment you register, unlimited and for life

Who is Ruth Cohn?
Ruth Cohn is a psychotherapist specializing in working with trauma survivors and "survivors of neglect trauma", their spouses and families since 1988. She is a sex therapist, certified in Neurofeedback, EMDR, sensorimotor psychotherapy and Imago relational therapy. She is also the author of two books: Working With the Developmental Trauma of Childhood Neglect et Coming Home to Passion, as well as numerous articles on sexuality, trauma and neglect. Find her in an interview with Florence Bernard on our Youtube channel.
An exclusive program, filmed and produced by Quantum Way
At Quantum Way, we are first and foremost therapists, each trained in their specialty, with in-depth expertise in attachment issues and the management of psychological trauma.
Our mission: to create a bridge between researchers, authors, speakers and therapists from the English-speaking and French-speaking worlds, in order to make accessible to all the teachings of inspiring people, often English-speaking (but not exclusively) who still remain too distant from the French-speaking public.
Thanks to the privileged relationships we have forged with internationally renowned experts, we are able to offer our community the opportunity to access their unique teachings.
This program by Ruth Cohn is a Quantum Way exclusive. It is the first program entirely designed in collaboration with Ruth Cohn, shot and edited in our own “studios”.
Until now, we had mainly translated and adapted existing programs from our partners. Today, we are going one step further: we have decided to create our own programs. This is how we went to the United States, to San Francisco, to shoot this program with Ruth Cohn.
We want to offer you exclusive content, with “cinema-like” video and sound quality, to make your learning experience a truly quality moment.

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Neglect trauma: identifying and treating it in therapy
"Because 'nothing' is not nothing"
with Ruth Cohn
"Because 'nothing' is not nothing"
with Ruth Cohn
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FAQ
What is the content of this program?
In this program you will find:
- 5 hours 30 of pre-recorded videos.
- PDF supports for the modules in French.
Can I move forward at my own pace?
Yes! After registering, you will have access to the entire program for life, you can follow the modules at your own pace and come back to them whenever you want.
Is this program live or recorded?
This program is pre-recorded and includes 10 videos for a total duration of 5 hours 30.
What language is the program in?
This program is offered in both languages: in the original version (English) and in a version dubbed in French by Anne-Laure Gex, professional interpreter.
How long can I access the online program?
Once you register, you will have lifetime access to the program on the Quantum Way e-learning platform.
Understand how neglect shapes identity and impacts relationships and help your patients reconnect with a sense of belonging and security.